Wants are wants. Wishes are wishes. Desires are desires. As long as you don’t need to have sex, you just don’t need to have sex.
Sex was initially created for reproduction. Yeah, sex we can now say does more than that. It seals or cements partners together, changes destinies, creates fun and supports fulfillment.
In life, when you get to the top quickly, you descend quick. The diminishing returns there is rapid. Don’t be impatient. Never you judge yourself by another man or compare yourself to another.
We all have different purposes to fulfill, different mountains to climb, different roads to take, different destinies indeed. Stop those unnecessary pressure you give yourself. You do not need it.
Usually, sex gives bragging rights to men. The reasons for any strong sex craving for a man is to flaunt the ‘accomplishment’ amongst peers. In reality, sex doesn’t end at the pleasure, it goes deeper than you can imagine.
Some sex will forever alter the plans for your life. Some sex conjoins you to a world you can’t ouster. Some sex you have will destroy your destiny for life. Some sex will keep you in the dark corners of your career. You’d work tirelessly but never get to he top. And just when you do get to the top, fulfilment is gone. And the decline runs faster than the speed of light.
Pornography is not even an option. Neither is masturbation. Setting priorities is the option.
There is no less evil. Sin is sin. The fact that you’ve not had sex does not exonerate you. The other sexual immorality that you do to make up such as masturbation, pornography etc still does not absolve you either.
You probably think you should be having a lot of sex now because you are old enough. Well, have you asked some really soul searching questions. Are there other fun you can have without it being related to sexual immorality? Are you fulfilling some long lasting dreams you’ve always had? Are you shaping or moulding yourself to the fantastic person you want to be in 20, 30 years? What are your beliefs and principles? Is life really all about sex? Or Is sex really all about life?
Sex is good. Sex is pleasurable. Sex is sweet. Sex is desirous. Sex cements a relationship. But importantly, sex is better within the confines of a marriage. Many broken homes traceable to an ‘ex’. The ‘ex’ traceable to the romantic affiliation, sexual intercourse or connection that has refused to go away.
Why would you put yourself in an entanglement that is capable of ruining your future relationships? You can have a decent relationship without having sex. Yes, learn to set your boundaries and priorities right.
We live in the most pervasive era of life’s generations. Sex is seen as a tool, a means to an end, women being objectified as sexual gadgets, SM heralding nudity always.
God’s standards does not change. I had a very compelling chitchat with Jesus on this matter before sharing it. And yes, I’m guilty of the sins I wrote here. I’m no Saint. It’s good that I have found my peace with God and I’m learning to set my priorities right too. You can do the same.
EGC 2020
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